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Reasons why I hate my dad
- I hate my dad because every time I want to do something on my own, or do something that's just a bit different from normal, he puts me down and treats me like an idiot.
- He thinks I'm an irresponsible moron, but won't let me do anything that might teach me some responsibility.
- Every time I make even a tiny mistake, he acts like it's the end of the world and tells me I'll never amount to anything in life.
- I don't respect him at all because of these things, but he demands me to respect him as if he somehow deserves it. But he doesn't.
- I hate how my dad is completely ignorant of everything that I care about. He doesn't know me, and I don't think he wants to. He only wants me to be a younger version of himself, and there's no way I'll ever be that. So he'd rather not know just how different I actually am from him. So much for unconditional love.
- I hate how I always have to pretend to be something I'm not, just to avoid my dad yelling at me.
- He always tries to intimidate me into doing things he wants me to do, and doesn't care if I want to do it or not.
- My dad doesn't understand what school does to me. He has no idea how shit I feel just by being there. If I try to tell him how I feel, he tells me I'm a wimp for having feelings like that, and that I need to keep going so that I can 'toughen up'.
- He thinks that I think I know everything just because I can look it up on the internet. I never said I know everything. Hell, I don't even know much at all. What *I* hate is how he always insists that he knows better than I do, and refuses to even listen to what I have to say. He doesn't even listen to what I'm saying, and then still insists that he knows better. WTF!
- As if that wasn't enough, every now and then he just hits me for no reason. I think he thinks it's 'playful' or something, but I find it degrading. If I tried to hit him 'playfully' he'd fly into a rage and call me 'ungrateful' and all sorts of other shit.
- Also, he's always paranoid and negative with his outlook on life. He's always focused on the worst that can possibly happen, and thinks I'm being stupid if I'm being optimistic, or focused on something good that happened. If it's something good, it has to have been a fluke as far as he's concerned, and everyone's always better off being miserable and thinking of the worst case scenario. He also always tries to ruin my plans because they're "not realistic enough" - in other words, they're too optimistic and focused on positive thinking. He wants me to be a miserable grumpy old man like he is. NOT GONNA HAPPEN.
- And if I don't pretend to be happy, my dad says he doesn't like my 'attitude', and that I should be grateful that I have a roof over my head and food and all that shit. Yeah, that's great, but frankly I'd rather live out on the street than have to live with my parents. I'd rather be physically starving than emotionally starving. I think that would be better for my mental health.
I mean seriously, I get along better with total strangers than I get along with my own father. How sad is that?
What do you think? Why do you guys hate your dads? And what can I do to get through to my idiot dad?
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Posted in: Commentary on August 27, 2009 @ 4:13 PM
Tags: Bullying, Parents, Psychology, Youth Rights
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hmmm,...same here.., I usually ignore my Dad.
I actually get what he's saying about toughening up. If you can't handle people at school, you can't handle other idiots outside of school.
But christ, your dad sounds like a bitch.
My dad does some of the same things, but not nearly as bad as your dad....
If that was my dad, he'd have a knife in him by now.
Are you my brother?
My dad is the same.
this is a joke, right?
right?
My father has many of the traits on this list. Another interesting thing in my particular father-son dynamic is that we both have the same temper with a few key differences; he has the physical strength to indulge his temper, whereas I have much MUCH more patience.
Of course I could never tell him this because I'm nineteen and he's fifty five so what do I know?
Oh God you could be my long lost brother and i your sister, cause im not joking, this is EXACTLY how he treats me!! I hate him so much! I've hated him since sixth grade, and i dont think ill ever forgive him! Normally, i try to stay out 0f his way, and only talk to him if i need anything. God our dads are assfucks.
my dad treats me like shit but i know he loves me i think hes gay
i know exactly how you feel. this is how my dad is and always has been to me. i dont know what to do especially since my parents are divorced and if i want to stay at the school i attend i must live in his house...
my mother fucking dad beats me and swear me wiz bad words , am only 15 .. last monday i went to hospital coz of asthma i couldn t breathe that coz i was so sad and nw thanks 2 him my physical condition is shits !!!
please guy s help me !! i am 2 sick and he doent give me money and even when i came from hospital he didn t even ask about me ... i hate this mother fucker ... he is an ass hoe and coward, plz any body helps me!!
I FUCKING HATE MY DAD! HE LEFT MY MOM WHEN I WAS A BABY AND GOT MARRIED TO "A better girl" like, two months later! He refused to pay child support until I was in the fifth grade! THE FIFTH GRADE! I am so glad I live with my mom! A bit after my dad married my step-mom who I just call "She-wolf", The had my half brother and sister. I FEEL SO BAD FOR THEM! Whenever they make one little mistake it's "WHAP!" A wooden paddle right to the rear end! And She-wolf just yells and yells and yells! IT DRIVES ME CRAZY! I hate it when I have to go over there! I love seeing my siblings and all, but NOT my dad! Last time I went to see him, I made the mistake of telling him when I grew up I wanted to be a CSI. And guess what, he laughed! He said my dream was too far fetched and would never happen because we lived in placid old Casper WY and nothing ever happens here! The She-wolf came in and started laughing too! I just blew my top and screamed, "OH YEAH?! WELL SOMEDAY I'M GOING TO LEAVE FOR CALIFORNIA SO MY DREAM CAN COME TRUE AND I WILL NEVER HAVE TO SEE YOU AGAIN!" I ran up the stairs to where my mom, brother and sister were talking, "I wanna go home." I said as I felt tears starting to build. My mom understood. I hugged my siblings goodbye, and left. He never even came up from downstairs. I haven't heard from him sense. It's been a month.
My dad says the exact same thing. He expects me to be perfect. Like, I just got my grades back from school, and I have all A's and B's, and I work my ass off for that. He yells at me because I don't have straight A's, so therefore, I will never amount to anything in life and I'm not going to college, and I'm going to end up just like my dead beat mother. Oh, and he will just come into my time at random moments when I'm sleeping and just start yelling at me for absolutely no reason at all. Like on Easter, he just, woke up mad at me. I hadn't even done anything. My dad hits me too, but he's not playing. Oh, and the other day, he get mad at me because I was "touching my hair" at the dinner table. He said it's rude, had a full blown fucking coniption fit, and came and started beating my hand for having my hand in my hair. WTF, it's my hair anyways, and last time I checked, people are allowed to do whatever the fuck they please with their own fucking hair.
I dont like my dad... I just hate him....He hurts me like anything...Every time I make even a tiny mistake, he acts like it's the end of the world and tells me I'll never amount to anything in life.
You dad loves you, sometimes dads have a funny way of showing it, but they just want to protect you, keep you safe, and sometimes it may come across as controlling or even demeaning, but they just dont know how to put things nicely sometimes. Just know how much they love you, if they annoy you, it means they care, and thats so much better than having a dad that doesnt.
Firstly, not all dads love their kids. Some dads view their kids as a dustbin where they have totalitarian control over since they are so pathetic and left-out and never amounted to anything in society. They control you in order to feel like they are in charge of something.
Secondly, even if, supposedly, he does love you, it is stupid, immoral, and pathetic to "protect" you by saying, doing, and beating you like a madman.
Therefore, I concede by disagreeing with your last point: having a dad that doesn't care is way better than having a dad who cares in such a goddamn stupid way.
my dad kicked out the kittens i took care, threw my phone when i'm trying to contact my teacher (and i told him that) and he expected me to be good, like him.
WE'RE NOT THE SAME DAD!!!
Your all a bunch of whiny little bitches. Suck ma cock.
Child predators and spammers are unwelcome. GO SUCK YOUR OWN COCK BITCH
i hate my dad because hes never here. hes a fucking bitch that i would never take more than 5 seconds to look at.
I HATE MY DAD AND (love) AND (love) AND NAN AND STUPID (love) AND MY DOG AND MY LIL BROTHER AND MY BIG BROTHER
not true ^
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Be appreciative for what you have. Damn.
i hate my dad and mum im going to sue them
I haven't spoke to my dad in 9 months, even though we live in the same house, haven't said a word to eachother in 7 months, even tho, the farest I can be from him is 20 meters and before that we rarely spoke, someyimes i think he is not my real father and my mom is hiding something from me
I hate my dad. I grew up relying on strong female figures like my mother and grandmother because when mom got pregnant he ran away like a little bitch. The father son relationship is something that should be special but it is something I never had because of him. I hate sport and trucks and other manly things because I haven’t had any manly input in my life. I am very feminine and enjoy more girly things, unlike the other macho football stars that went to my school, and I got contently bullied and harassed by people for it.
I can’t help but think if I had a father I wouldn’t bee this way. Is it wrong? I don't know
My mom found a new boyfriend when I was 10 and as a result I have a little brother who I would do anything for. His father completely ignores me and acts as if I wasn't there no matter how much I try to make him like me. everyone knows I’m Bisexual and they treat me as if I have Aids or someshit my brother hates his father just as much as I do and wanted to come and live with me but that old bastard would never allow it. One time it was Halloween and him and his friends were gonna go trick or treating. He was going to dress up as a vampire or something but any way when his dad seen the face paint he went nuts and said “GET THAT SHIT OFF YOUR FACE NOW!!! I'M NOT GONNA LET YOU END UP LIKE THAT FAGGOT OF A BROTHER!!! I think he thinks that gay people are transvestites or something because I certainly don't wear makeup.
I went straight up to my brother, who was crying at this point and took him to my place for the night. When I turned 18 I applied for custody of him and won we now live happily together. No father. No problem
See dad... I did end up ok.... And it was all without you.
P.S I hate you
My dad has one more trait that you have listed. He Harpes me every single momenent he can. Oh, when my dad is playing video games, he says go do more work. Like I have enough work already. And when I don't have any work, he says go study and make me not enjoy my life. Sometimes I rather be dead then begin in the same house as him. And the worst part, when he gets REALLY mad, he threatens me like, I'm going to use all the bank account money that you saved for my self so you won't go to collage. I rather have a HOBO as my dad. Atleast he will be nice to talk to.
Hey, everyone, PARENTING SUCKS, Even if you try to make a video with a character that annoys you and you kill it, they BAW like it's 2012 even though ITS NOT!!!! And.... if ur looking at something good like fapping to ponies or something, they take it, look at what you done and ground you and call you gay, then they go on Gaybook and talk and talk and talk and bloody talk!!! It's ridiculous, and you just wait to do something you want for 24 hours while they never get their lazy butt off!!! I WANNA FAP TO GUMBALL AND SPONGEBOB AND MLP AND STUFF LIKE THAT, I'M NOT TRYING TO BE GAY, GODDAMNIT!!! AND I CAN'T GO ON UNCYCLOPEDIA EITHER!!! AND IF ONLY THIS WEBSITE WASN'T BLOCKED ON STUPID K9 I COULD FAP ON IT FOR 2 HOURS, GODDAMNIT!!! IM SICK OF THIS DOO-DOO
AND WHY ARE THE STUPID IDIOTS NOT ON MY RECCOMENDATIONS, I GOTTA FAP TO SOME GODDAMN PONIES,
AND DON'T TELL ME TO TURN OFF THE CAPS LOCK, AND DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT ME TYPING EVERY SECOND!!!
01/01/2012, On my first comment, I was wrong, it is 2012, even though i posted it on 2011
i agree with the reasons my dad is EXACTLY like that!
Oh, One more thing, when I try to make my OWN money, He filps out. He wants to be the dominator of everything I touch. I wish I was dead because life's not worth it if you can't control it.
Trust me , you wouldnt rather be physicly starving. Try living on the streets for a few weeks . Its hell.also try showing him a little respect,just as an expirerment ,you never know , it might work out.he obviosly thinks he knows evrything.let him think that , because its more important that you know the truth, not him. And i also thing the most inportant thing of all is to stay above his level, dont stoop down to his level of stupidity, just tring to prove something,because untill your 18 you cant win,atleast he cant belive that youve won. But let him think he rules you, even if you know he doent. Sorry ive kind of been speaking in riddels lol. Just trying to help out .
Good luck
my dad wants me to be FUCKING PERFECT. straight As and shit. My mom just wants me to pass with an average of Cs. He spends more money on alcohol than his kids. He also has a dumbass blonde bitch who only cooks veggies and shit which is the reason im so fucking skinny and weak. She also agrees with EVRYTHING he says, and sometimes names more things. for example, i got only ONE F in reading (reading is for lifeless assholes) and my dad was yelling at me. She didnt even know the situation then just blurted out "send him to summer school *trollface* " I wanna smack-a-bitch.
This is absolutely true for me. My dad always believes I am the devil's incarnation and is constantly schemeing about how to kill him and my mom when I grow up. He says I am "ugly" and "talk bullshit all the time" yeah, so says the same person who wasn't present until I was a year old. He expects me to respect and fear him at all times. Incorrect.Pretend that we are eating a meal together.I tell you to pass the salt while pointing a gun at you. Would you pass the salt because you respect me or because you fear me? What if I hadn't been holding a gun? Would you still pass the salt? Fear and respect are different. He gets mad at every little mistake I make. Even some that aren't mistakes. He has kicked, slapped, punched, thrown knives,salad spinners, and other objects. He even ripped up one of my drawings. Needless to say, the last one actually hurt. The only reason this son of a bitch, class A asshole is still alive is because I don't feel like going to prison.
I feel the same way. I would rather leave home than stay with him. Usually I just try to ignore him, and stay in my room.
based on what i have read from ALL of your comment,some of you are plain immature while some of you does have a sick and miserable life.i used to hate my dad because he never showed any emotion like he doesn't give a fuck but later i learn he do care for just any he doesn't show it(bcuz he loves being macho lol)i do know that he does everything for the better of my life,but oh well,we're kids who doesn't know a thing,being a rebel~my dad always comply to what my siblings and i want eventhough they are pricey.heck he's readily to gave things without us even asking(which btw made my mom scold him for wasting so many money lol)he even expand my house to make my family live with comfort when he ALREADY buy a lot to build a new house,I BET YOU WOULD DIE IF I ACTUALLY TELL THE EXACT COST!.(note:my family isn't rich we came from an average household)my dad also always ask me the same question which sometime make me annoyed but i do know it's bcuz he cares for me and he doesn't know what to ask(my dad is not the warm-loving type but the macho type :P)
Tel me someething, stupid scum:
Is it immature to despise a father for not working but finding plenty of time to screw other women in the neighborhood while my mother was out supporting his sorry ass?
Is it immature to despise a father for beating his children--and I'm talking whaling on them hard, when they were BABIES?
Is it immature to despise a father who disappears for YEARS at a time, but when he does show up he insults everyone he sees, points at his own son and says, "Whose kid is that?" and insults my mother for her looks, her cooking, the way she's dressed, the way she talks, the way she walks--well, everything about her?
Did you think I was exaggerating about disappearing for YEARS at a time? Gee, what else would you call it when a parent goes YEARS between visits (I saw him when I was 4 and 12--THAT'S IT) and, in between, never calls, never writes, never acknowledges a birthday, and refuses to pay child support on top of it all? And I'm not supposed to despise the kind of low-life scum who would treat his won children that way?
Oh--and am I not supposed to despise a parent who was a complete whore during his marriage, but then went home to his family after my mother finally had enough and booted him out, and told them that MY MOTHER cheated on him and had a kid that wasn't his, never mind how that kid looks EXACTLY like him and nothing at all like my mother? My sorry scum father trashed her so much and so hard, that my grandparents never again communicated with us. And I mean NOTHING from them. Not one phone call, letter, birthday wish--nothing. They're undoubtedly dead, but I have no idea if they really are or aren't, because I have not heard from either of them for 51 years and counting now--because their sorry filth son made sure of it with his endless scum lies.
Oh, and the torment from this sorry excuse of a human being KEPT GOING! When I was 22, he decided he wanted to be my father again. I sent a message to him to stuff it, I had better things to do with my life than to associate with a low-life scumbag of a psychopath like him. I also left a message that I had a shotgun and ammo with his name on it, and if he didn't stay away, I'd do society a favor and take him out like someone should have, long ago.
Does he take this gracefully? No, of course not. He cozied up to my grandmother and started sweet-talking her like the lying snake he was. Then he made a play on my middle brother, too. I told that brother--he's after something, and you need to figure out what it is before he destroys everyone and everything around him. He doesn't do anything without having something that benefits him going on. It's all he knows how to do.
And then I get the phone call--my brother tells me that he's had to cut off the SOB because that sorry scumbag wouldn't leave my grandmother alone. She was getting tired of him pushing her for something. I asked what. My brother got quiet and said, "He got really mad, then he chewed me out because the only reason he'd had anything to do with grans and me was because he wanted to see you."
So my brother, who had bought this miserable piece of filth's LIES about being a dad again, got completely shattered when he realized he'd only been seen as a pawn.
Ten years later, the piece of filth was dead. When my mother told me, my response was, and I quote, "Good. One less SOB in the world. Tell me it was a painful death." When she told me he fought a very long battle with cancer, my black little heart did a happy dance. The SOB deserved all of that pain and suffering--and more.
He's lucky I haven't dug up his sorry corpse and kicked it around like it deserved. Maybe that I would be capable of that, and I'm not sorry that I am, is why my mother wouldn't tell me where he was buried until very recently.
So you can take your kumbaya stupidity and stuff it.
You have NO idea what it is to have a complete and utter psychopath for a parent, and the havoc that kind of filth can wreak on everyone around him.
Sit your naive butt down and shut the hell up.
i know exactly how you feel!!! my dad is all of that plus the characteristics of a workaholic. i hate him so much. i cant wait to move out and be rid of him. im never coming home again once im gone. not for anything.
i hate this damn bitch cus everytime im gonna get on the internet he comes and bitches that i been on all day when i just out of skool. >:|
My dad is such a fuck, I'm sitting in my room after a party for 5 miinutes playing xbox and hes like " Your so lazy go do school work Blah Blah, you spend a billion hours on that shit blah bkah" Well fuck you bitch, my awesome mom has to put up with that shut head, FML
P.S. Please fucking die
i also the same in addition i cry when ever my dad is at home, right now am crying while typing it.
55 year old hated father here.
So lets get this straight. Show emotion and I am abusive and not in control of myself or show little emotion and be cold and heartless.
Work hard to provide for a spoiled and unappreciative family and I am never there for you. Or Spend a lot of time at home and be a loser who does not take care of his family.
Care enough to discipline and order you to stop sitting on your ass and I am verbally abusive macho guy. Or, let you sit around Fapping to wallpaper animals all days and its my fault your a loser with no money, future, pretty pony etc.
Basically you kids are candy-asses. You call a guy names, appreciate nothing because you are spoiled. Go cry, maybe that is a valuable work skill. It better be because it what your generation is best at. Whining, blaming, fapping, crying. Yep, That is legacy of your generation.
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I hate my father so much. He thinks that he doesn't have to do a shit in his life. All he does is watch videos on YouTube on his fucking dumbass computer of his in his bed all day, and when I want to use my phone or maybe watch one show on TV he asks me, Did you do this? And that? And if I did all my fucking work, he's all like, go fold my clothes, dumb duck or something like that. And he gets into these huge fights with my mom. My dad takes all my hardworking moms money to go to whorehouses. My mom is plain broke and working her ass off. My dad will fight and throw stuff at my mom, and even hit her. He also trashes the house, knowing my mom will have to clean it up. Also, he hits me to get his daily stress out. One time, he hit my hand with one of those combs with those little pokey things on it and those sticks stabbed into my skin, so I had like 20 small bleeding holes in my hand. And when my mom was all like, what the fuck happened, he said, I just tapped him with the comb and he brought his hand up. I hate that fucking cunt ass bitch of a father.
My dad is the same, only that he drinks whiskey, wine, beer, and moonshine all fucking day long and makes my life a living hell (he literally looks for something to get mad at) I almost committed suicide by shotgun to the head, though I thought it would be better if I would just run away, but the little pussy that I am I just could not do it, the only thing I can really release my stress on is porn and occasional sex. (reposted because moderation is taking way to fucking long, its been 2 weeks WTF)
When my parents don't listen to what I have to say, I write a really long and thorough letter to them. Then I refuse to listen to their response unless they write back. It sort of works.
my dad is the same. i dont like him because he yelles at check out klerks and beats up peoples cars when he's angry. i hate that whenever there is a crime he will imediatly blame it on those ''crazy teenagers'' [my sster says he calls me that behind my back]. i hate that he acts as if everything in the eightys was perfect when i got a history book and it wasn't. i hate that whenever i get mad at him he just says it's just pms when ive hated him for a year strait now! i hate that he did'nt care when i told then we had to watch a video of an autopsy at school. i hate when he tells me i can do something but then says it was stupid after. i hate that he expects me to imedeatly forgive him for everything. i hate that i never can find the right word to say to him. i hate most of all when he makes me trust him and ruines it.
My dad's too much of a mediator and not enough of an authority figure.
he at least takes my side when it comes to my bitch of a mother...
he was a little late, but still.
Hey writer, how are you now? I hope you're better now. Unlike me, stuck with a man who you hate so much. All of you listed, except for the school, he really is that. Plus, HE EVEN YELLS AT ME WHEN I AM SLEEPING. HE'LL JUST WAKE UP AND HATE ME. I don't think that belongs to "love and care" shit others are insisting.
i just hate him he thinks he owns everyone hes mean to my mum and my mums family all the time he calls my uncle short when hes short he says my cousin is bad at everything even when there 3 !!! he thinks i betray him all the time but i dont im just being rude to him there is nothing i need to be betray him about hes not family he only cares about his own side of the family he thinks he is king he thinks he owns me and i have to do whatevcer he wants he says he wish that is die and thats okay but i have a mum and her side of the family to care about and when i die i will take him with me. his side of famil doesnt even know who i am. i dont consider him as family just a stanger
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It's hard to ignore my dad he's such a fucking prick he's says he'll try to control his "anger issues" but he dosent even try the reason I put quotes on anger issues is because he'll yell at me but not yell at my 2 bigger brothers cause he knows he'll get his ass beat
Fuckin prick
Then he gets mad at my mom for catering me when he caters my two older brothers