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Why Does School Make Me Hate Learning?

Let’s cut straight to the chase: School sucks, and I’m not going to sugarcoat it. If you’re like me, you’ve probably found yourself sitting in class, feeling like a square peg being forced into a round hole. You’re not alone. Your frustration, anger, and resentment towards school are valid. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling this way.

It’s like we’re stuck in a system designed to crush our creativity, curiosity, and passion for learning. We’re told to sit down, shut up, and regurgitate information like mindless robots. But that’s not how real learning happens.

I’ve been diving into the work of people like John Taylor Gatto and John Holt, and let me tell you, they’re onto something. They talk about how traditional schooling kills our natural love for learning and stifles our potential.

Why School Ruins Learning

1. Rigid Curriculum: School forces us to follow a one-size-fits-all curriculum, ignoring our unique interests and learning styles.

2. Standardized Testing: The focus on standardized tests reduces learning to memorization and regurgitation, instead of critical thinking and problem-solving.

3. Grades Over Growth: Grades become more important than actual learning, leading to a fear of failure and a reluctance to take risks.

4. Power Imbalance: Teachers hold all the power, leaving students feeling disempowered and discouraged from speaking up or asking questions.

5. Busywork: Endless worksheets and busywork assignments do little to engage our minds or spark our curiosity.

6. Outdated Material: Much of the content taught in schools is outdated and irrelevant to the real world, leaving us feeling disconnected and disinterested.

7. Lack of Creativity: Creativity is stifled in favor of conformity, leaving little room for exploration and self-expression.

8. Peer Pressure: The social pressures of school can distract us from learning and lead to anxiety and depression.

9. Boredom: Sitting in a classroom for hours on end, listening to lectures, is a surefire way to kill any enthusiasm for learning.

10. Lost Passion: Many of us enter school with a natural curiosity and love for learning, only to have it crushed by the system’s emphasis on grades and conformity.

But here’s the thing: There are alternatives.

Ever heard of unschooling? It’s all about trusting yourself to pursue your interests and passions without the constraints of traditional schooling. It’s about learning from the world around you and following your curiosity wherever it leads.

And then there’s online school. Sure, it’s not perfect, but it gives us the flexibility to learn on our own terms, without being chained to a desk for eight hours a day.

We may not have the legal power to walk out of school without our parents’ permission, but that doesn’t mean we’re powerless.

We have the power of self-kindness. We can stand up for ourselves and refuse to be cogs in the machine. We can prioritize our mental health and well-being above all else. And we can find ways to nurture our love for learning, even in the face of adversity.

So, to all my fellow learners out there, remember this: Your feelings are valid, and you are not alone. School may make us hate learning, but it doesn’t have to define us. Let’s reclaim our passion for learning and forge our own path, one step at a time.

Where to next? Pick one!

Posted in: Blog, Questions on March 20, 2024 @ 1:50 AM


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