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Why Does School Ruin My Mental Health?

Hey there, friend. If you're reading this, chances are you're feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and maybe even hopeless about the whole school thing. Believe me, I've been there too. It's like being stuck in a maze with no end in sight, constantly battling against a system that just doesn't seem to get you. But here's the thing: your feelings are valid. You are not alone, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with you.

Let's unpack this mess together, shall we?

John Holt once said that kids learn best when they're free to explore, play, and follow their own curiosity. But what does school do? It locks us up in stuffy classrooms, bombards us with information we couldn't care less about, and expects us to regurgitate it all on command. Talk about a creativity killer.

Then there's Peter Gray, who championed the importance of play in learning. He argued that play is not just a frivolous activity but a fundamental part of how we make sense of the world and develop crucial skills. Yet, where's the play in our classrooms? Buried under mountains of homework and standardized tests, that's where.

And let's not forget John Taylor Gatto, who blew the lid off the true purpose of schools: to churn out obedient workers who don't question authority. Think about it: we're taught to sit still, follow orders, and never rock the boat. No wonder we feel like square pegs trying to fit into round holes.

From a young age, we're thrust into this relentless cycle of exams, grades, and performance evaluations, leaving little room for anything resembling a balanced life.

Then there's the relentless comparison game. Whether it's the race for the highest GPA or the most extracurricular activities, we're constantly measuring ourselves against our peers, striving to outshine them at every turn. It's exhausting, demoralizing, and utterly soul-crushing.

And let's not forget the soul-sucking boredom that pervades so many classrooms. How are we supposed to stay engaged and motivated when we're forced to sit through hours of mind-numbing lectures on topics that hold zero interest for us? It's like watching paint dry, only less exciting.

Then there's the whole social minefield that comes with school. The cliques, the drama, the peer pressure—it's enough to make anyone want to crawl into a hole and never come out. And for those of us who don't quite fit the mold, it can feel like we're constantly swimming against the tide, desperately trying to find our tribe in a sea of conformity. And what about the rampant bullying and harassment that plagues so many school environments? From verbal taunts to physical violence, it's a toxic stew of cruelty and aggression that can leave lasting scars on our psyches.

We're all unique individuals with our own strengths, weaknesses, and learning styles, yet we're expected to march lockstep through the same curriculum at the same pace. It's like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, only to have it come out battered and bruised on the other side.

And then there's the crushing weight of expectation that comes from our parents, teachers, and society at large. We're taught from a young age that anything less than perfection is failure, that mistakes are to be avoided at all costs. It's a recipe for anxiety, depression, and burnout, leaving us constantly chasing an impossible ideal. From the moment we're born, we're bombarded with messages about what it means to be successful: good grades, a prestigious career, a hefty paycheck. But what if those things don't align with our own values and aspirations? What then?

There's also the pervasive sense of disillusionment that comes from realizing that the promises of school—education, opportunity, a better future—are often nothing more than empty rhetoric. We're sold a bill of goods about the transformative power of education, only to discover that the reality falls far short of the hype.

Let's not overlook the toll that sleep deprivation takes on our mental and physical health. Between early morning classes, late-night studying sessions, and the constant buzz of social media, it's no wonder so many of us feel like walking zombies, running on fumes and caffeine.

So there you have it, my friend. Plenty of reasons why school can feel like a soul-sucking, mind-numbing, spirit-crushing ordeal.

But it's not all doom and gloom. There are alternatives out there, like self-directed education or online school, where you can take back control of your learning and pursue your passions on your own terms. It's not always easy, and it might take some trial and error to find what works for you, but trust me, it's worth it.

And what about parents? Laurie A. Couture has some wise words for them. Instead of pressuring us to conform to society's expectations, they should be nurturing our individuality, supporting our interests, and fostering a love of learning. Because let's face it, we're not all cut out for the traditional school model, and that's okay.

Now, it's important to acknowledge the harsh reality that as students, we often feel powerless within the confines of the school system. We don't have the legal authority to change the curriculum, overhaul the grading system, or the ability to leave without parental permission.

But while we may not have legal power, we do have power of a different kind—the power to take care of ourselves and stand up for what we believe in, even in the face of adversity.

One of the most potent weapons in our arsenal? Self-kindness. In a world that constantly tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or capable enough, practicing self-compassion is like armor for the soul. It's about treating ourselves with the same kindness, understanding, and empathy that we would offer to a friend in need.

And let's not underestimate the power of standing up for ourselves, even in small ways. Whether it's speaking out against injustice, setting boundaries with toxic people, or advocating for our own needs and desires, every act of self-assertion chips away at the walls of oppression and injustice.

Another source of power? Finding our tribe—the people who lift us up, support us unconditionally, and remind us that we're not alone in this fight. Whether it's joining a club, volunteering in our community, or connecting with like-minded individuals online, surrounding ourselves with positive influences can be a game-changer.

And let's not forget the power of education—real education, the kind that transcends the walls of the classroom and empowers us to think critically, question authority, and envision a better world. Whether it's reading books, listening to podcasts, or engaging in meaningful conversations with others, never stop learning, growing, and challenging the status quo.

Ultimately, the power we wield may not always be obvious or tangible, but it's there, simmering beneath the surface, waiting to be unleashed. So keep nurturing your self-kindness, keep standing up for yourself as much as you can, and never underestimate the ripple effect of your actions. You may just inspire others to do the same. You are capable, you are resilient, and you are worthy of a life filled with passion, purpose, and joy. Keep fighting the good fight, and never forget that your worth is not determined by your grades or your test scores. You are worthy simply because you are you.

Where to next? Pick one!

Posted in: Blog, Knowledgebase, Questions on February 28, 2024 @ 1:02 AM


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